It’s Not The Thought That Counts
Them: “I never know how you FEEL!” (you never tell me anything!) Me: “But I’m right HERE!” (how can you not know?!) That, dear reader, is the short story of…
Take No Bullsh*t
(Irritated therapist steps on soapbox to address this...) “You have everything you need inside you” BULLSH*T. Of the careless meme and inspirational quip variety. “You have everything you need inside…
A Different Kind of Cardio: Do you have the heart to go there?
I wasn’t… pretty… Limbs shaking, heart pounding, vision blurry. Sweating switching from hot to cold. Throat rasping for air. And there are 3 more rounds to go. This is me…
What Therapy Can Learn From Terminator II
(I know, it’s every therapist’s go-to…) A recurring theme in stories is non-humans lamenting their non-humanness to humans who are lamenting it. Gods, robots, spirits, all trying to get us…
Don’t Kill Your F*cking Dragons! Why The Hero’s Journey May Not Take You Where You Want To Go
We’re so familiar with some of the stories we tell ourselves about the way the world works that we can become oblivious to the fact that we’re using them, especially…
The Unexpected Power Of Four Small Words: You’ll thank yourself for doing this
Points medals stars trophies acknowledgment appreciation gratitude recognition? Yes please! We like a bit of that, don’t we? Not only do we like it. We need it. It helps us…
How Pretending Can Change Your Life
I’m going to share with you the secret of how pretending can change your life. I’m going to do this by inviting us to play a game of Let’s pretend.…
Thin Air: What To Do When You Don’t Have A Mentor
I was recently asked to share my experience of being in a mentor - protégé relationship. Never had one. Good… So I’m pulling this out of thin air. Fortunately, humans…
A Therapist’s Guide To Shock: How To Harness It To Your Advantage
We have a paradox: on the one hand we know change is inevitable, and on the other we can feel shocked when it happens. I’d like to share a perspective…
What Are You Doing When You Play — and how can you do it better?
I’m currently involved in organizing a competition for writers & speakers. This question — what’s the point in competing? — generated this answer. When you choose to play a game,…